Welcome to TENDERS

About TENDERS

TENDERS is an online network for grief tenders, soul activists, and cultural repair workers navigating the Long Dark together. Rooted in communal care and collective liberation, this is a space of belonging for those committed to tending grief, conflict, and transformation with depth and devotion.

At its core, TENDERS is an offering to our broken hearts, Ancestors, Future Ones, and the Dreaming Earth. It’s a gathering ground for those who know grief is not personal pathology but communal intelligence and cultural calling. A call to protect what and who we love, to mourn the sorrows of the world, to remember how to be human together, and to resist systems of domination. 

While it lives online, TENDERS is woven with mycelial care and soulful intention, it's slow, relational, and alive. 50% of its profits are donated to the Grieving Ground, a nonprofit grief and soul sanctuary.

What You'll Find Inside

TENDERS is a place to learn, grieve, build skills, and root into a soulful, politicized practice of communal care. Each month, members receive:

• One 2-hour live workshop with Holly Truhlar or a guest guide (recorded)

• Weekly grief writing sessions (gentle, guided, and deep)

• Weekly grief somatic practices (slow, imaginal, relational)

• Group office hour with Holly for questions, care, and real-time support 

• Seasonal book club that meets once a month and shares reflections in the network

• A one-hour monthly grief vigil to mourn together in ritual

• Shared resources, practices, and teachings for tending grief, conflict, and repair

• Discounts and priority registration on in-person and online events for the Grieving Ground

• An interconnected network of grief tenders, soul activists, and cultural care workers to weave with

Most offerings take place on Zoom or posts inside the network portal. You’re welcome to attend live or move with your own rhythm and watch the recordings (*about half of our offerings are recorded). Recordings are available for 30-days inside the network, they are watchable/listenable but not downloadable.

TENDERS Book Club

Each season, we gather around a book that speaks to the heart of grief, cultural repair, soul activism, or collective care. We meet once a month to explore its themes, share reflections, and be in dialogue with each other and the text.

This isn’t just about reading—it’s about relating, remembering, and reshaping how we think and feel in community.

Books will change every season, offering time to move slowly and with depth. You can join for one month, one season, or stay as a devoted reader throughout the year.

Who This is For

TENDERS is for those who feel the world aching and choose to show up with devotion, grief, and a fierce commitment to the communal well-being. This network may be for you if:

• You tend grief—your own or others’—and long for a supportive community and deeper skills

• You are a community weaver, healer, ritualist, therapist, climate scientist, teacher, caregiver, soul activist, or leader who needs a place to be held

• You are grieving and want to learn how to be with your sorrow in ways that are sacred, collective, and transformative

• You long to disentangle from and dismantle the over-culture of domination while cultivating an under-culture of care

• You want to deepen your practice with this time of the Long Dark—of endings, unravelings, polycrisis, and possibility

• You value and listen to our beyond-human allies, including plant-people, animal-people, Ancestors, and archetypes

• You know that grief is political, relational, and holy—and want to tend it that way

• You resonate with the work of Kai Cheng Thom, Rowen White, Alexis Pauline Gumbs, adrienne maree brown, Clarissa Pinkola Estés Réyes, Malkia Devich-Cyril, Jaiya John, Andrea Gibson, Dean Spade, Glennon Doyle, Francis Weller*

*There are other teachers and lineages whose work we love. These are simply some of the fellow practitioners whose work complements the soul of this space.

Contribution & Access

The TENDERS network is offered with reciprocity and sustainability in mind. 50% of its profits are donated to the Grieving Ground, a nonprofit grief and soul sanctuary devoted to ritual, repair, and collective care.

Monthly membership is offered on a tiered model to support different levels of access and resourcing. These are our introductory prices and are likely to go up:

• $50 USD/month ~ our standard rate, covering costs and care for the network

• $75 or $100 USD/month ~ our sponsorship tiers, helping us offer discounted and free spots to others in need

• $25 USD/month ~ our sliding scale rate, for those with limited financial resources

• If you want to join but cannot afford the sliding scale rate, we offer scholarship spots. Please email [email protected] to request an application.

All tiers receive the same access and benefits. Your contribution supports more than just your access, it helps sustain grief ritual, community weaving, and soul work for all. 

*Please note: you are responsible for canceling your own network membership and we do not offer refunds on network memberships or events. 

About the Network Host

Holly Truhlar (she/they) 

Holly is a collapse psychologist, politicized grief tender, and soul activist. Her body of work is a remembering and revisioning of what it means to be people of potency and culture. She mentors individuals and facilitates groups through ritual, storytelling, imagination, creative practices, and Deep Democracy work. She holds a Doctorate in Law and Masters in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology, though she learns most deeply from her relationships with the Wild, including the land she inhabits, Ancestors, Hekate, and donkeys. She's co-facilitated two grief ritual trainings with Francis Weller, drawing over 1,000 learners into the sacred work of communal grief tending and cultural repair.

"If there happens to be a multitude of griefs upon you, individual and collective, or fast and slow, or small and large, add equal parts of these considerations: that the broken heart can cover more territory. that perhaps love can only be as large as grief demands. that grief is the growing up of the heart that bursts boundaries like an old skin or a finished life. that grief is gratitude. that water seeks scale, that even your tears seek the recognition of community..."
—adrienne maree brown, from Spell for Grief or Letting Go

Join Our Tenders Circle

Join us by choosing one of the monthly contribution options below. 

50% of TENDERS profits support the Grieving Ground—a nonprofit grief and soul sanctuary rooted in ritual, community care, and cultural healing, based in so-called Colorado (occupied Ute, Arapaho, and Cheyenne lands).

If you have questions about the network or need support enrolling, please reach out to: [email protected].